Sleep Deprivation And Parenthood

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Parenthood and sleep deprivation are common struggles, read more on Huggies Singapore as we share with you some management tips on it.

Sleep deprivation and parenthood

The words “sleep deprivation” and “parenthood” are intricately linked. It’s a hard fact that when you’re a parent of a newborn, baby, or toddler that you are going to be sleep deprived at times.For some parents, sleep deprivation may last for years. If you are one of those parents, it can often be difficult to see the light at the end of your sleep deprived tunnel, but there are ways to cope with and combat sleep deprivation.

As a parent you will usually hear lots of facts about the “average baby” sleeping sixteen and a half hours a day. This figure has been bought about through including babies who sleep nine hours and those who will sleep for twenty-one. The fact is, every baby is a unique little individual and developing regular sleep cycles is something that will take time and patience in resolving. The key is for parents to stop blaming themselves for the fact that their child doesn’t sleep all night or settle well at bedtime.

Age

Typical sleep cycle

Signs of tiredness

Typical number of sleeps during day

0-3 months

Typically sleep 16-18 hours a day. Usually only awake 2 hours at a time

* closing fists
* arching backwards
* jerky movements
* struggle to focus on faces

4 or more.These will vary in length from short naps to a couple of hours.

3-6 months

Sleep for around 15-16 hours a day.

* same as 0-3 months
* will look specifically for parent’s face to seek comfort

2 to 3.These will usually be broken down into two shorter naps and one long one.

6-12 months

13-14 hours during a 24-hour cycle, broken down into 10-12 hours overnight and 2 or 3 sleeps during the day of 1-3 hours

* clumsiness
* grizzling
* rubs eyes
* struggles to engage with anything

2.This will usually consist of one short nap and one long nap in the morning or afternoon.

1-2 years plus

12-14 hours during a 24-hour cycle. Usually one day sleep of about 2 hours.

* impatient
* rejects food
* irritable
* uncooperative

1.This usually lasts for a couple of hours and takes place in the middle of the day. The need for this day sleep can last up until the age of 3 or 4, depending on the child.

 

Coping with sleep deprivation

Sleep deprivation can feel like torture for parents who are affected by it. There are no hard and fast rules for how to settle your baby and to get them to sleep for extended periods. The thing is, no one will know or understand your baby’s needs like you do. The advantage of this is that you are most likely to know which method of settling them will work best for them. Don’t be afraid to try them all over time. But how do you cope with sleep deprivation and the daily demands of your life?

  • Take your time. If you are introducing new settling strategies, give it a decent trial for a few days. This will help to avoid confusion and see objectively if what you are doing is working.
  • Don’t be afraid to ask for help! Accept any reasonable offers of support. Even asking someone to hold the baby for you while you shower or have a meal can make a difference.
  • Look after your own needs and try not to forget the basics. Showering daily, changing your clothes, eating regular meals, avoiding too much caffeine and drinking plenty of water will help you feel better.
  • Trust your instincts, no matter what they tell you. If you feel there is something wrong with your baby, get them checked by your health care professional. Reassurance and support are essential in the early days of parenting. You are not meant to be alone.
  • Get out of the house. You may feel shattered and going outside is the last thing you want to do. But going outside and having a change of scenery often helps parents to feel calmer and change their perspective.

Signs a baby needs to go to sleep:

Sleep deprivation often makes it harder to recognise when baby is tired and the best ways to cope with this. According to Dr Harry Zehnwirth MB BS (Hons) FRACPa consultant paediatrician with more than 25 years of specialised medical education the key signs to watch for with a baby who is tired are:

  • Changing facial expressions – relaxed to grimacing
  • Frowning and looking unhappy
  • Looking away from you or staring into space
  • Rigid, jerky or tense arm, hand and leg movements
  • Fists clenched
  • Rubbing eyes and ears
  • Yawning
  • Crying, fussing, being unsettled – this is a late cue!

What a baby needs to sleep

Monica Hughes, Manager of Education and research at parent education organisation Karitane says: “Most babies aren’t born knowing how to go to sleep and stay asleep. You might get lucky, but most babies will need to be taught and helped with this skill by their parents.” During the early months, you can work on creating a pattern with your newborn that develops into a routine. Clinician Jane Barry suggests the best way to establish a routine is using the Feed / Play / Sleep method.

During the day when baby wakes, first feed them and then place your baby on the floor for some playtime. The age of your baby will determine how long they will play before showing tired signs. Watch for the tired signs and then act on them by implementing the settling techniques.

In the evening, after dinner or a feed, replace play time with a relaxing bath. Have some cuddling time and perhaps a story or two. Massaging your baby with baby lotion can also be very useful for relaxing your baby. Avoid over-stimulating your child before bedtime or think that the longer you keep them up, the more tired they will become and the easier it will be to get them off to sleep. An overtired baby is always harder to settle.

Barry also recommends checking that your baby is dress comfortably for sleep. This includes checking that your baby has a dry diaper and clean sheets. “Lots of babies tend to sleep better in the dark and cool. Using blinds or dark curtains can really make a difference” says Barry.

Sleep and settling methods

Settling in parent’s arms

Small babies often go to sleep when they are being fed or cuddled. For lots of parents, their baby settling in this way isn’t a problem as long as they stay asleep when they are put into their cot.If this happens, try to interpret their cry as either a genuine need for cuddling or one which is telling you they are just tired and grizzling. This is a learned skill for parents and one which may take some weeks.

Gentle patting, shshshing, rocking the cot, playing music or singing a lullaby often helps to calm a crying baby. Loving human contact is important for young babies and helps with their brain development.

There will be times when it just works to cuddle your baby until they go to sleep. Small babies need their parents to comfort them when they are unsettled because they do not have the skills to soothe themselves.

Hands on settling

This is a good mid-way point for babies who are used to being cuddled to sleep but parents are keen for them to learn how to settle in their cot.

Place your baby into their cot, clean, dry, and comfortable and rest your hands gently on them. Rocking, patting, stroking or just leaving your hands gently on their body will be reassuring.

You can stay until they are calm and then leave before they are asleep or alternately, stay until you know your baby is sleeping.

Comfort settling

This is a good way for older babies to go to sleep in their cots more independently. Try leaving the room before your baby is actually asleep and give them a chance to settle on their own.

If your baby cries, go back to them and offer reassurance. Again, listen for their cry and try to interpret if they really need you to go back in to them.

Leaving your tired, older baby to settle on their own is fair and reasonable as long as all of their needs have been met.

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